Are you getting the type of prospects YOU want, or are you settling? Is your financial life as good as you fantasized it would be when you were starting out?
If you've got it handled - or even if you haven't but you're on the right track and you know you'll get there someday - great. Skip the rest of this article and check out my next articles. Now you would probably know that to be able to build your multimillion group, you need to BECOME A SPEAKER, A TRAINER and a LEADER right? Are you there yet?
Or is there some REASON why you will never have everything you want?
If you think there is, we have to talk.
In about 30 seconds, I will go through the most common reasons why people think they are limited in becoming a networker
- "I'm too short"
- "I'm too old"
- "I'm not good-looking enough"
- "I don't have enough money"
- "I don't think this business is for me (after becoming frustrated)"
- I don't have time
let's talk about what's REALLY going on - at least for 99% of the you who have these "reasons:"
You're protecting your ego.
Saying you're too short or too old or whatever comes from the same place as when a guy says, "I didn't want him/her in my group anyway," or "she's just a bitch" when he gets rejected by a prospect.
Your ego does not like it if there is something you want, something you should be able to do, and you aren't able to do it.
Last week I was playing mixed martial arts with some friends. I had a bad game and got my ass kicked. It pissed me off. I wanted to make those shots and grappling locks and I should be able to. Then we went for a beer afterwards and played some pool. I absolutely suck at pool, so it didn't bother me or affect my ego.
So the guy who convinces himself that "I didn't want him/her in my business anyway," after she rejected him, is redefining the situation. Whether or not he could have had the prospect, he didn't want her. No big deal, no damage to the ego.
That's shortsighted, of course, because this guy is denying himself the opportunity to improve - to actually be able to get what he wants instead of making excuses about it. If you admit that you wanted his prospect but didn't have the right technique, then you can fix the technique. And next time it will be your buddies who are trying to convince themselves that they wouldn't have wanted that "Great Entrepreneur Leader" anyway, before he/she signs up.
Saying you CAN'T get your prospect, instead of just that you DIDN'T WANT HIM/HER, is even more self-destructive.
Now you've given yourself permission to compromise yourself and permission to fail. Like I said, I'm really bad at pool. So I don't mind a bad game and I can take some pleasure in the occasional good shot. That's fine for a bar game I play maybe one a year. It's not fine for life.
You've only got one chance at this "life" thing, so for anything important - and financial success and relationships definitely count as important - you're not here to give up. Giving up is the easier choice for sure - Networking for Idiots is not an easy skill to develop. Being able to pick up leaders in your business wherever you go takes time and work.
But it's worth it.
"Alright Clark," I'm sure some people are saying, "that sounds very inspiring and all, but the fact is that I actually AM short/old/ugly/poor/whatever, what then?"
OF COURSE these things matter. I don't know where anyone got the idea that they don't, but they do.
But lots of things matter. A nice deep voice matters.
There are thousands of things you can do to improve your success with your networking business. You don't have to do them all. No man in history has ever done them all. You just have to do enough of them.
